Are we breeding or educating?

And what is the difference? In my youth, when I was starting my career in psychology, this question was already going around in my head.

I remember that there was a course in the faculty in which the final grade was the oral and written presentation of a small research project. That semester I embarked on dealing with educational problems, and very risky I gave the name to my project "Educational Abandonment".

I tried to do a field study with children in kindergarten, their parents and teachers, in order to correlate some variables that I posed as signs of parental neglect with respect to their children's education.

The truth is that I do not remember in detail the conclusions of the research, nor can I read it again because we are talking about more than 23 years ago, I do not have the work in paper or digital, but I do remember that parents immersed in the day to day, with their economic concerns, their own personal and professional growth, left their children in the hands of the world: teachers, grandmothers, aunts, nannies, devices (at that time they did not exist) and in the worst case, the street. That was a long time ago, and we are still in the same situation.

When I finished my studies in Human Resources, I already had two children and I saw the need to elaborate a family plan, so I used the templates of a subject, specifically everything related to "Performance Evaluation" to work with our family and enunciate: Mission, Vision, Values, our role as parents, areas of action and areas of responsibility.

And what does it mean to educate? To educate is the day-to-day implementation of all these ideas, which in order not to remain in the air we must review, adjust, evaluate, asking ourselves questions such as: what can we delegate and what not, do we really do what we can regardless of what people say, or are we more concerned with what the world expects and maintain the image of the perfect family, do we genuinely seek the best for our children, what is the best in a given situation?

Questions that are not answered in a couple of hours and that we should ask ourselves frequently to correct the path in case we are getting lost, because it is so easy to get distracted nowadays?

All parents in one way or another we ask ourselves many questions, however, developing a family plan gives structure to your day to day, to your thoughts, you acquire security and family self-esteem is strengthened, gives meaning to your chores, and turn to this plan in difficult times keeps us afloat.

If we as parents do not educate our children, the world will educate them.

Families, let's try to define a family plan and if you have questions on how to do it, you can write to us in the comments, I would be happy to help.